Thursday, July 29, 2010

How can I get adoption papers for my husband to adopt my son?

What is the process? The childs biological father isn't involved, I have no contact with him. No hear no see ever! He pays child support only because it is garnished wages, and moves jobs alot! My husband and I have been together 8 1/2 years: since my son was 6 months old, accepted us as a package without hesitation! We are currently 4 months pregnant as well. Thanks.How can I get adoption papers for my husband to adopt my son?
You will need to contact a family or adoption attourney (they probably deal with the same area). Your local family court can assist you in locating one if you have trouble. lf your son's biological father is paying child support, garnished or not, and is obviously named on the birth certificate, he is the aknowledged father and will most likely have to terminate his parental rights for adoption to go ahead. l do know in some states you just have to take reasonable measures to locate and notify the father, and a judge can rule on termaination of rights himself, other states the father must consent. The length of time that you and your husband have been together is fine, and the fact that your son has been in his life from so young is great, the only area you may have trouble with is the biological father. l've posted a couple of links for you to check out to get some more information, but get in contact with an attourney ASAP. Good luck, l hope it all works out for you!


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http://www.expertlaw.com/forums/archive/鈥?/a>How can I get adoption papers for my husband to adopt my son?
Contact a lawyer - the biological father will need to terminate his rights (which includes child support). The lawyer can draw up the necessary paperwork for the adoption. Different rules for different states. Good luck.
open Ur phone book look a family attorney up ask for a step parent adoption it fairly easy.
go to your county officenear u they have them there and they could


tell u more.
Not sure if all state laws are the same, but your best bet would be to seek out a lawyer that does adoptions. Usually a the lawyer will get the paperwork started, they will try to contact the biological father and inform him of the court hearing ( most generally if you don't know where he is, they will run an ad in the local paper for a week or two) and then you have the hearing, and the judge will decide ( I know in my case, that we had no contact with my daughter's biological father and he didn't show for the hearing and the judge didn't hesitate in letting my husband adopt her )


hope that helps some ~ like I said, I am not sure if it's the same in all states or not.
Whether the child's biological father is involved or not, he still has rights. They will have to terminated or willingly signed over by him before your husband can adopt your son. He may be willing to do so i order to get out of paying child support.





You should contact your local family court and tell them you want to do a step parent adoption. They can tell you the process, put you in touch with a good attorney if you will need one (which you probably will) and you can move from there.





The good news is that the adoption you are looking at should not be as complicated as a traditional adoption, and will probably cost very little and be a relatively fast process (depending on the cooperation of the biological father).





At 9, they will probably speak with your son about how he feels about his biological father, his step dad, and the adoption. THey will inquire about his relationship with his step dad, etc.





Good luck!
Talk to a family Lawyer. We just went thru this, the birth certificate gets changed, essentially cutting out the bio-father


completely, as if he never existed. We didn't want to have my stepchildren fathers name takin off the B.C.


We are pursuing other options. It cost approx. 300 to have all the lawyer stuff done, and after that there is court fees that will have to be paid. We were told around $600 .





Good Luck


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  • My husband and I might be moving to Carbondale Colorado and was looking for information on the town?

    Does anyone have any information on carbondale. We have 2 boys ages 3, and 11 months.My husband and I might be moving to Carbondale Colorado and was looking for information on the town?
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    My husband is a Saudi Arabian Citizen and I am American. What do we need to do to live in the UAE?

    We want to settle permanently in the UAE, it appears that this will be easy for my husband, but what do my son and I need to do? What kind of paperwork should we get? I do not intend to work, but I might attend graduate school after a year or two.My husband is a Saudi Arabian Citizen and I am American. What do we need to do to live in the UAE?
    Normally your husband would apply for a work/residence visa, then apply for you and your child as his dependents. The UAE embassy will be able to advise if you will be allowed to study on your visa or not

    My husband and I have private pensions with Canada Life are they worth the monthly payment?

    We pay approx 拢250 month and are now no longer self employed, just working part time for our son.We are going to find it a struggle to continue to pay the monthly payments. I am 51, my husband is 59 ( he has the option to take his pension next September when he is 60).Is it better to try continue to pay,stop payments or any other suggestions would be appreciated. It doesn't look as though we are going to get much of a return on the money anyway.My husband and I have private pensions with Canada Life are they worth the monthly payment?
    I have just received my Prudential pension which I decided to take as a lump sum. The taxman took 30% so what I have left is a pittance. I imagine most of the profit went on Bankers bonuses, so my advice would be take it now and invest it yourself in a scheme to give yourselves a monthly income.

    My husband and I owe an extremely large amount to the IRS does anyone know if there is anyone that can help?

    My husband and I owe an extremely large amount to the IRS does anyone know if there is anyone that can help us get this amount reduced?My husband and I owe an extremely large amount to the IRS does anyone know if there is anyone that can help?
    You can request an Offer in Compromise(OIC). When you file an offer in compromise, you are asking the IRS to accept a fraction of what you owe on your taxes and to write off the rest of your debt. IRS offer a do-it-self kit free. Here is the link:





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    Enrolled AgentMy husband and I owe an extremely large amount to the IRS does anyone know if there is anyone that can help?
    the IRS is the best source of help. they will do all the law allows to help you settle this debt. contact them. putting people in jail costs money it doesn't earn the government a cent
    Contact an attorney.
    I do not know of anyone who can ';help'; you, but I do know from prior tax filings, that you can make payments to the IRS, but you do have to file, indicating that you intend on making payments.

    My Husband is really in to cars, I would like to learn to suprise him. Where do I start?

    I want to take more interest in my husbands hobby. He is really into cars and racing. He has a GTO that he is alway working on. I want to be able to talk to him and show interest in this. I am tired of feeling like a stupid girl when he talks about the subject, but don't know where to start. Can someone please give me some ideas?My Husband is really in to cars, I would like to learn to suprise him. Where do I start?
    The gesture to want to take more interest in your husband's hobby is a good one. It sounds to me, and maybe I'm wrong here, that you just don't wish to feel excluded when he is in his ';zone'; working on the GTO or ';bench racing'; with his buddies. It's normal. And you are not a ';stupid'; girl, you used intelligence in asking for help.


    First, let him know that you would like to share that time with him. Stand back and listen to the terminology used, The key is to listen and observe, mechanics and hobbiest use ';car slang'; for names of the parts of cars so it can get confusing for those that are not familiar with the ';lingo';. Go to the library and do some research. There used to be a series of high performance books by Peterson publications called ';Basic _____'; such as Basic Carburetors, Basic suspension, basic engines, etc. , you get the idea. They are a good, easy to understand publication with lots of good pictures of components that will help you understand the basics. The GTO, and I hope I assumed correctly that it is a 64 to 70's GTO and not a new one, if it is an early one it is very basic and the technology used for that vehicle will be well covered in the Peterson publications. Once you start to recognize the things he is talking about you can ask him more about them and offer some input.


    The newer plastic, electronic and computerized vehicles are more technical than the early ones.


    Try not to ask questions while he is elbows deep in the car. You might ask if you can help. When he is NOT busy, start by asking him to identify and explain the tools to you. Learn the tools so that you can help him when he is working on something (get a Snap-on or Mac Tool catalog). He will appreciate you being able to hand him the correct tool so that he is not crawling in and out of the car. Don't be afraid of getting some oil or grease on your hands. There are eco-friendly hand cleaners such as Stochhauson - Kresto EF that is excellent and economical if used as directed and it doesn't ruin your skin.


    That's a start , you can email me if want more tips.My Husband is really in to cars, I would like to learn to suprise him. Where do I start?
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    Tell him you love his big cam shaft, then make love out in the garage on the hood of his GTO.
    yeah, listen to him, ask questions, and devout some effort to learning something, but also its not what you know that counts all the time, but your will to know would be most signficant. and an outting to the drag strip for a national event, im sure he would like that too.
    buy a book on GTO's and read it
    First of all, good idea would be to grab a Car %26amp; Driver Magazine and look through it and read some of the articals and secificly look for some ';Lingo'; Just so you understand maybe somethings he might be talking about. And find an interest of your own about a kind of car you want some day. If he's into Pontiac then he really wants to work on his car alone.

    How do I learn to live with my husband who is bi-polar?

    I've been with him for 11 years and it's improved but we still have mostly rough days. It's affecting our kids who are 2 and 10 and I feel mentally exhausted.How do I learn to live with my husband who is bi-polar?
    Instead of letting it get to you, get after it. By that I mean, make sure he's getting the healthiest possible diet and exercise routine. Add a couple of supplements like omega 3 fish oil or flaxseed oil and 5-HTP to his daily diet. Make sure he's involved in lots of fun activities with the kids. Get him the book I recommend (below)... if he reads it, does the assignments, he will learn to believe in himself and will get better or even find a cure in just a few months. The mind and body work together in this endeavor, so it's important to do all of these together. How do I know this? Been there.


    http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handb鈥?/a>How do I learn to live with my husband who is bi-polar?
    a vacation with the family sounds like its time to get away for a little while.
    I hope he is on some medication. Also try to develop a routine with chores and things. Us bipolars do better if there is routine it provides some kind of stability or balance if you will. If you want there is also counsuling that the both of you could go to or each individually. There is also the DBSA which is the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance and they have group meetings all over the country where you can discuss several topics on the issue. See www.DBSAlliance.org.
    I can relate..It has to be hard. If you are willing to except that he wont always be the kindess person in the world..and know how to look past it..then i believe you should do fine. But you need your peace too. Only you can make that decision. Good Luck1
    Be as loving and supportive as you can. Just remember that even though it's really hard on you sometimes, it's just as hard on him. If he hasn't sought medical treatment, encourage him to go. Remind him to take his meds and meet regularly with his counselor. If he balks at taking the medication or going to counseling, remind him that he's not just doing it to help himself, but for the good of you and the children, too.
    2 of my sisters have that and sometimes all you can do is lev them alone dont try to help. just go out and do something for like 1 hour and then when you come home it should be gould agin.most of the time thay just need some alown time.i know lots more this is just a little help if you want more um well email me.
    Your husband needs to seek help and do it immediatelly. Your best bet is to encourage him to do just that.


    He needs help both medically (with some combination of drugs to treat the mania and the depression, not just one of them) and he needs counceling to help him through those times when the drugs are just not enough.


    You ask how you can learn to live with him. Well, I have to tell you that the first thing you have to do is put your foot down and let him know that this is what he has to do if he wants to keep you and the kids.


    After that it would be good at times if you could see the councelor as well to sort of get things off your chest when they start to build up.
    I'm sorry that both you and he are going through this. Bipolar disorder can be terrible for the person who has it and their loved ones.





    If your husband isn't getting treatment he really needs to be encouraged to do so. You may want to suggest going along with him to an appointment to give him some moral support and show that you're interested in his well-being.


    If he's receptive to getting treatment, or currently is getting treatment, then it may be a good idea for both of you to go to a session together so that his therapist can help you both work on addressing issues and concerns together. Or the therapist may be able to talk to you alone sometimes, as long as he or she gets your husband's permission.





    There are also support groups for the spouses and significant others of people with bipolar disorder (and other mental illness). You can call your local mental health center and ask if there are groups such as this available in your area. Or there are other options:





    BPSO (Bipolar Significant Others) has a private, closed and unmoderated internet mailing list for people who are trying to preserve a loving relationship with someone suffering from bipolar disorder. Here is the information page on that group http://www.bpso.org/subscrib.php#info (Scroll to the bottom of the page to find the email on how to subscribe to the list)





    This is a very good link that I found by Mesa Family Workshops that offers different lessons and ideas on coping with mental illness in the family. It's a lot of reading but worth taking a look at. http://www.bpso.org/mesa.htm#KEY





    NAMI offers a course called Family to Family which is offered in some areas; here's the webpage http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Section鈥?/a>


    Even if there isn't a course in your area you should give NAMI a call and find out if they offer any other courses or support groups in your area. Their number is 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)





    Remember that being supportive of a loved one with bipolar disorder or any mental illness, doesn't mean that you have to become immersed in it. Be sure to keep up your own interests, take time for yourself when you can and spend quality time with your kids. Remember also that although your husband has bipolar disorder that isn't WHO he is. Separate the person from the disorder. Love the person, even if you hate the disorder.





    These are a few other tips that you may find helpful:





    No one is to blame


    Don't forget your sense of humor


    Your family member is entitled to his own life journey, just as you are


    Don't shoulder the whole responsibility; You are not a paid professional case worker so seek help from others when necessary


    If you can't care for yourself, you can't care for another (which means that it's very important to take good care of yourself :) )


    It is important to have boundaries and set clear limits





    Take care and I hope that things work out for you and your family.
    How do you learn? That's a bit stingy on your part. Apparently on do not know what kind of hell he has to go through every day. Yes I have bi-polar and all the other goodies that come with it. First of all he needs to be going to a physiologist to be correctly diagnosed then they will try different meds for him until they find one that is right for him. It is a long process but in the end it is like you are being reborn again. You ';the person with bi-polar'; finally get to feel what you people call normal. It will be the best he ever felt in his life and i'm not talking about a drug induced feeling. I'm talking about a feeling of who he really is. His inter demons from his past will be gone. I take Prozac, clonazapam, and seroquel. But that is what works for me, and yes I have to take this the rest of my life which was another demon he will have to run up against. I tried many many medicines before I found the right ones that made me feel normal, I do not feel as though I'm on any medicine. That's how he should feel. He needs you to be strong for him. If it wasn't for my husband, we were married in 1984, being strong for me and sticking by all my so called problems I truly do not know where I would be today. The worst being dead. This is a serious thing, don't write it off as just some young age, or middle age thing. Its a life long thing. You are born with it and there are things in your life that make it worse. I'm sorry i'm going on and on but there are certain things people don't understand just like Rosie O'Donnell on the View made a comment about RSL (restless leg syndrome) It is very real! And as horrible as it sounds I wish she would have it to see how agonizing it is.
    many bi polars see themselves as victims of their condition and als think that taking their medication is a sighn of weakness. So you must instill in him the reality that it is the medication that will allow him to live a normal life, and that it is not a sighn of weakness ,rather a test of courage to take the meds and improve his life for the sake of his family...if he is not on meds ...he needs to be evaluated and get some they can turn his life around if he lets them.
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  • What is the perfect time to intercourse with husband to conceive pregnancy?

    I want to get pregnant but I don't know the exact timings of successful intercourseWhat is the perfect time to intercourse with husband to conceive pregnancy?
    12-14 days after the first day of your cycle!!! You may also want to try mymonthlycycles.com it will give you exact dates. good luck!!!What is the perfect time to intercourse with husband to conceive pregnancy?
    Two weeks before you're expecting your period. Or be smart and just try nearly every day or about every 3rd since sperm can live inside a woman for up to 72hours : ) Good luck!
    Just do it every other day to ensure there is a constant supply of sperm waiting for the egg to be released. Visit www.babycentre.co.uk, they have a lot of useful tips and an ovulation calculator! Good luck :)
    OK, I am going through infertility treatments now, And have many times before (I have 2 kids, but 3 pregnancies)


    I am also a nursing major.





    You want to start counting from the first day of your period...


    day 1 is the first day of bleeding, not spotting. ACTUAL BLEEDING.





    In a 28 day cycle... meaning the number of days between day 1 to day 1 of your next cycle. ( to get an accurate number you would actually have to wait for that 2nd period to figure, unless you are very regular





    In a 28 day cycle most women will ovulate around day 14.


    but if you have sex AFTER you ovulate it will be too late, the sperm should already be there BEOFRE you ovulate.





    The sprem can survive in your boday for about 24-48 hours.


    Once ovulated the egg will only live for 24 hours unless fertilized.








    You should have sex every other day ,BUT between day 11 and day 16 you should have sex EVERYDAY, but no more than that.


    Even in men with very high sperm count having sex more than once a day can lower your sperm count temporarilly.


    so if you have sex 2-3 times in one day, he may not have enough the next day : (








    Hope this helps!

    What does an expectant mother expect from her husband?

    My wife feels that i just m not too thrilled about our first baby which is due at the end of nov. She is 7 months pregnant. Can some one guide as to what i can do so that she feels i m equally excited?What does an expectant mother expect from her husband?
    normlguy put it well. Sorry, but if your wife is anything like me, she will be reaching the 'totally irrational' stage right about now. I was convinced my husband couldn't care less, cried over everything, etc. etc. Bear with her, her hormones will be all over the place right now.





    Let her talk to you, if she's nasty just roll with it, be prepared for 3am conversations about nursery colours, show enthusiasm about names, go to the midwife appointments with her if you can, and remind yourself - only a couple more months! You could also read her pregnancy books or a pregnancy website.





    I think it's great you are trying so hard.





    Edited to add: meant to say, if you can afford it, a spa day, massage, manicure or haircut will be extremely well received right now.What does an expectant mother expect from her husband?
    That's pretty common for first time mommies. :-) Remember that she is constantly 24/7 thinking about the baby. She always has to watch what she eats and stay away from a million things also to keep baby safe. Not to mention all the planning and anticipation that comes with it all. Since she is 7 months now, try to offer to do things with her to prepare for baby. For example, put together crib, set up baby room, go shopping with her for baby things, talk to her about the baby's development and how she is feeling. Things like that. Just stay involved and talk to her about it often to let her know it's on your mind a lot also. :-) Congrats!
    Unfortunately her hormones are not going to help the situation, but I would say to be involved with the shopping, and maybe buy one or two things on your own, like an outfit and a toy. Also, let her rest often, offer to do things for her to show that you are thinking about her pregnancy and don't want her to get too stressed for the baby's health. Like pitch in a little extra with the cleaning. Also you can try asking how she's feeling, and if she's felt the baby move, stuff like that.
    Ask about the baby. Ask about how she feels. Offer to rub her feet or back. Ask if she's got everything ready for the baby and if she doesn't, offer to go shopping with her without moaning and groaning and constantly walking around with your hands in your pockets saying ';is that it now? Are we done here?'; Talk about baby names with her...talk to her belly using the name you've picked for the baby if you've picked one. If you haven't, don't be a road block into picking a name and get something settled on NOW. Help get the last minute things done in the nursery without whimpering that it's your first Saturday off in a month and you don't want to spend it looking at Winnie the Pooh's behind...Try putting together a CD or Ipod list of her favorite songs and songs that might be soothing when she's in labor. All these things show you care and aren't too far out there for most guys to do.
    SHow her your excited, talk about the new baby and buy things for your new arrival, go shopping with her.


    Make sure she's comfortable, care for her, maybe rub her tummy talk to baby, rub her feet,back, just be as genuine as yuo can as she's hormonal probably over sensitive and needs your support more then anyone else. when the baby is born she is going to be completely exhausted, so if you can take turns with your new crying infant at night, do indeed do that, maybe even take off of work for a while (if possible.) it's All New to both of you, so be there to help and support, %26amp; to love and care. She'll love you for it and appreciate it All, I'm sure=)


    Also, Maybe do something nice for just her, like a gift not involving baby and or involving also.


    Best wishes to you both
    I'm seven months my husband started reading the baby books talking to my belly and will put his hand on my belly to feel the baby!! he will also rub my huge feet and my back when they are both really bothering me!! i think for some guys its more exciting when the moment happens i know my husbands kinda like that hes not just getting excited about baby! have you picked out names? what about getting the baby's room ready!
    Have patience and understanding with the mood swings because we sincerely cannot help it!! lol......also rub her feet, back and other aching body parts. Talk to the baby through her stomach everynight so the baby will begin to recongnize your voice. Go shopping for something for the baby, and suprise her with it, like a little t-shirt that says ';Daddy Loves Me'; or something. Or you could also get her flowers, or a little gift just to make her smile........little inexpensive gestures go a long way:) Good Luck!
    ask if she wants to go shopping for baby things. my bf didnt want to and he went anyways because there is no saying no to me but he didnt like it and it kinda made me upset like he didnt care about her. Also take off work to go to a few or all ob appts. rub/kiss her belly maybe talk to the little guy.


    hope this helps
    EVERYTHING... do EVERYTHING.... she only is pregnant for 9 months.. let her milk it... you probably dont realize what she is going through.. its a LOT more than men think.. its not just carrying around a bigger belly.. its pains and aches and turmoil. My wife was pregnant 3 times so far... i wasnt very good to her the first pregnancy and i regret it.. she went through so much to bring me my wonderul children.
    Talk about the baby, sit there and talk to the baby, when shes whining shes in pain and her back aches say something nice to her..dont act as if youre tired of hearing it because she says it every day.





    have some sympathy..





    when u go shopping.. look at the baby clothes and say our child would look so cute in this.. etc etc etc...





    Help her make plans..her hospital birth plan,make a list of things that need to be done before the baby comes..GET those things done..
    rub her belly, talk to the baby, go to doctors appointments with her. Just support her and talk about the baby with her. Go shopping with her and pick out baby stuff. You have no idea how much it will help just going to the appointments with her.
    I love it when my husband suggests nursery colors/decorations. He also picks out toys when we're out shopping. He constantly rubs my belly, which is something a woman sees as tender.
    most expectancy mother (talking from experience lol) want u to help with massages lower back can play up buy a baby toy with out her knowing and bring it home buy her what shes craving and kiss her tummy things like that will help alot

    My husband is putting in a new toilet himself is this dangerous?

    Is it ok that he is doing this himself or should we call a plumber? I was just reading about possible sewer gases leaking out when you remove the old toilet, how dangerous is that? When the new toilet is in place is everything safe again? Would it smell really bad if something dangerous was leaking? Im 8 months pregnant and we have 2 year old so I just want to make sure this is safe as it's 8 o'clock and close to bed time and the hubby is still working on it I don't want to be scared to go to sleep. Thanks!My husband is putting in a new toilet himself is this dangerous?
    Other than possibly pulling a muscle lifting the toilet, it's not dangerous. I have replaced a couple of toilets myself. Sewer gasses are just smelly. I stuff an old rag in the top of the drain to block the odor and so that nothing drops down inside.





    When the new toilet is in place and it is flushed, water will fill the bowl and the u-bend, which prevents the sewer gases from entering your home.My husband is putting in a new toilet himself is this dangerous?
    Hah, a toilet is a rather simple devise that can be installed in about 15 minutes. While the sewer gas may stink, a brief 15-minute whiff isn't going to do any damage. When the toilet is in place, as long as there is no water leaking from underneath it, you are good to go. The water in the bowl acts as a trap and will keep sewer gas from escaping into the room.





    It is almost impossible to mess this one up, but if you do, you will know right away when you see the leaks. Common problem: tightening the nuts too tight and cracking the tank or base of the bowl.
    make sure you use a new wax seal under the toilet base .
    it's a simple job , let the man work in privacy

    What is the best Chicago pizza restaurant my husband could go to?

    He's going there for some convention soon and I asked him to bring me and my daughter back a pizza. Any suggestions on some of the best places to go to? I've had Uno's and Giordano's in Orlando, so I'd like to have something local.. not a chain. He saw a place where a bunch of cabbies own the place. Not sure what it's called though. Thanks in advance!What is the best Chicago pizza restaurant my husband could go to?
    Most of these answers seem to be chains... although they are all good (except I dont like Connies) but my ALL TIME FAVORITE is Chicago Pizza and Ovengrinder Co. in Lincoln Park. There is a bus that takes you to the zoo and its a very close walk from there. They have AMAZING pizza pot pie. The only problem is they don't take reservations so I recommend going when its first opening during the day and not on weekends and also they only take cash Im pretty sure.


    Definatly try it out because he can also get frozen ones to take home and make yourself. Also, make sure he tried mediterranean bread- wheat or white- they are equally good. I can't stress how wonderful the food is here. I go a couple times of year (only because I dont live in the city- otherwise Id be there everyday). It also has history to it- it takes place across the street from where the St. Valentines Day Massacre happened. There is a wonderful history on the back of the menu and if you ask you can keep the menu. I have a copy at my house. You can also read the history on the website as well as see the food and prices.


    Check it out: http://www.chicagopizzaandovengrinder.co鈥?/a>





    I'm away at school and would KILL for this right now.What is the best Chicago pizza restaurant my husband could go to?
    I read over other people's answers, and definitely would rank, in order, as the ones he should try:





    1. Lou Malnati's


    2. Phil's


    3. Connie's





    Steer clear of Ricobene's--as someone who spends most of her time in that neighborhood, I've heard the Ricobene's themselves are awesome, but I have yet to really enjoy their food.





    P.S. Lou's is good, quality deep-dish with a real craftsman-style touch to it. Phil's is more the greasy, late-night bar pizza. They're both awesome, but definitely different!
    I used to live in Chicago, and I loved Connie's. Gino's East is great, too.
    If he wants to visit a Chicago Pizza classic, then Home Run Inn is the way to go, but the neighborhood is a little seedy.





    http://www.homeruninn.com/





    If he's stayin' close to downtown, then MyPie on Clark St. is the best deep dish place.





    http://www.lilguysandwich.com/mypie/








    And theres also Phils Pizza on 35th and Aberdeen St. if all he's lookin' for is great pizza.








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    Lou Malnatis Pizza has just opened it's 25th place. They are all over Chicago Seems pretty popular.





    There is Connie's Pizza, 2373 South Archer Ave.


    ...............Ricobene's, 252 W 26th St.


    ............... Pompei Bakery, 1531 W Taylor St.





    Besides the first one the next three are listed as top three.





    Why not go with him and enjoy it there?





    Maybe you will get lucky and someone that lives there will answer. But you have to realize what someone else thinks is best may not be best to you or everybody else.





    Let your husband decide when he gets there and ask the locals.
    The BEST places for authentic pizza in Chicago, according to Trip Advisor are:





    1) Pequod's Pizza


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    2) Chicago Flat Sammies


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    3) Cafe Luigi


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    4) Pat's Pizzeria %26amp; Ristorante


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    For the COMPLETE list..... see below!


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    For traditional Chicago Deep Dish Pizza, my favorite is Giordano's, but you've already had that.





    I would recommend the original Uno's pizza for your husband as they invented the style. But only go to the original for the ambience.





    Pizzeria Uno


    29 East Ohio


    Chicago, IL 60611


    312-321-1000








    Gino's East and Lou Malnatti's are also similar and very good.





    www.ginoseast.com


    http://www.loumalnatis.com/locations/

    My husband and I have about 10,000 in savings right now. What is the best way to earn interest on this?

    For 2 years? We are earning interest in a Savings Account, but it's not much. We would like to eventually buy a home and pay off our cars. He is in the military now and will be out in August 2011. Thanks for any help you could give us.My husband and I have about 10,000 in savings right now. What is the best way to earn interest on this?
    Savings accounts are the lowest paying interest there is. Try moving to a money market or CD's . They do not pay huge amounts more than a savings account, but they do pay more. It remains relatively liquid if you do this as well. If you have this money allocated to by a house in 2 years, I would not put it into the stock market or mutual funds. This is relatively risky and could go down in value by the time you are ready to buy your home. Long term investments are typically things that are more than 5 years out.


    Please read a book called the Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. This is a great plan on how to set yourself up financially for your life. If you buy a house and you are not set up properly, it will not be a blessing, it will be a curse. Trust me. You need to be financially ready to leap before you do.


    A huge thank you to you and your husband from my wife and I for the sacrifices you and your husband are making by being in the military. Thank you for defending our freedoms.


    Good Luck. I wish you all the best.My husband and I have about 10,000 in savings right now. What is the best way to earn interest on this?
    Got to bankrate.com and search for a CD or Money Market Checking Account with the best rate, doesn't need to be in your town. I have a money market checking paying 1.46% at Zions bank in Utah and I live in another state. Also, check in the phone book for credit unions in your area, they often beat rates offerred by banks and will let you borrow against your own savings if you need the funds before maturity.
    the kicker is the 2 years part. The above posts that recommend either a CD or money market are correct given the 2 years time frame.





    www.bankrate.com is also a correct place to learn about the top national rates that banks are offering on their products.





    There is nothing that you cant do with your money. You CAN invest in mutual funds, since some are very low risk. You CAN risk it all in the hopes of a large payoff in your time frame and invest in something with a high risk/reward. However, the tried and true investing wisdom says not do to that, you need 5 years or more, but its all up to you on what you do. It is your money.
    A fixed-rate CD could be a safe move since they're much more stable than the stock market. Call around to your local banks to see what their interest rates are. You should be able to get between 3-4%; its not much, but its much better than the average savings account.
    There is not much that you can do without risking the money.The higher the risk the better the interest.Buy ';The Sunday Times'; this Sunday and in the money section they show the best places to invest your money for the best interest rate.

    My husband just finished a CRST training school and passed his CDL and endorsement tests?

    It ended up that after a bunch of promises they didn't give the ';career'; that they promised, and we are on the prowl again for another driving job. Are any of you drivers, that could share opinions on companies, Who would you apply with if you were trying to break into the field? Can you please share your experiences?


    My husband just finished a CRST training school and passed his CDL and endorsement tests?
    My dear, getting in to long haul trucking means a year or two low income and hard work. After that hard work remains but you will learn haw to make more money. I hate to tell you but first when you start driving a company truck, all you take home is like you were working at your local fast food restaurant . Food and road expenses will take a good part of your paycheck away. (In this case your husband鈥檚 paycheck) most companies will keep you (or him) out for 2 or 3 weeks at the time. Another point to keep in mind is that most of these companies would run you as a team with another driver which has seniority. CRST is one of them. This company has never had a reputation as a good paying company only a place to get started. That goes for many other companies as well. JB Hunt, Schneider, Swift, CR England, and many more. Now if your husband is willing to do this tell him to watch for a few things. Ask if the company requires loading and unloading and if they do so how often? How much do they pay? Do they deliver to dry warehouses only or they send you to grocery warehouses as well?


    Grocery warehouses usually make drivers not only unload the truck but also break down the pallets and rearrange the load for them. Many trucking companies make their drivers do the job and pay them a little money if any. Yet lumpers charge up to $300 for same unloading and rearranging of the load. These companies use inexperienced drivers and make them believe this is a normal part of job! Try not to work for owner operators as well. I have seen many of them run out of money and before you know it there is no paycheck for you! Now with all that said, I would go to work for well know name companies to get experience while I am sure I would get pay for sure! Do not let them get you in to buying a truck through them and become owner operator because then you will be at their mercy! Many of these companies have programs to seduce you become your own boss by buying a truck! First thing you will realize after doing so is that you are no boss! Actually they boss you around even more since they know you have no other choice! One last thing is if you both have CDL it is best to put your stuff in a storage and not pay rent while driving over the road. I found this very practical and many drivers save money this way.


    By the way all those companies I mentioned above are OK to work for because they at least pay you! After a while you will learn which companies to work for and which ones to stay away from!


    Best of luck


    Farzin


    20 years in trucking


    www.raziran.netMy husband just finished a CRST training school and passed his CDL and endorsement tests?
    Heh.. Mrwhat, you need to know that there are federal laws against driving as long as they


    supposedly asked you to.. no one can ';make'; you drive that long without stopping for a mandatory sleep break.

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    What exactly is the ';career'; he was promised/expecting going thru a truck driving school?


    Recruiters are all generally the same. They make the promises to get you in. (Sometimes they are given the wrong info too so not always their fault.)


    I went thru the same with CRST. I lasted about 4 months with them after I went thru their schooling but had no problem finding another driving job after that. Most of these training companies like Swift, CRST, C.R. England, J.B., are the same. You will start out at a low pay... Lower than what you think you are worth... (It seems to me it is more of a trade for them giving you experience.) Tho they all have their ups and downs they are the companies you want to start out with. After a year or two pretty much any company will consider you.


    If you're looking for something that will get you home every weekend or night then you will basically need to work your way up. Get experience then apply for the local/regional positions with companies in your area.... Unless you get really lucky you'll need experience for those since there are so many drivers wanting that.
    I was a driver. If I was to drive again, I would choose;


    1. England Trucking


    2. J.B. Hunt





    If your husband could drive over the road trips for about 2 to 3 years, then he could look for a daily route with local companies. Vons, Albertsons and most other local companies are with Unions. The pay is great and good benifits. Over the road is tough, but the local companies require the 2 or 3 years experience.





    Good Luck
    if you sign the contract with crst your jacked, i want play with you at all on that .you an your husband is stuck until the 8 month contract is up, i know trust me im in that situation right now myself.i did find work right out the gate ,but the dude tried to use me an work me 13 to 14 hrs with out rest, so i had to let that go. this trucking stuff ain't no joke,they will mess over you with out second thoghts of it.they go against thier own policy an protect all thier owner /lease operator.want know major company touch you nor your husband,crst have a proven record of sueing other companys about there driver out of training school.if u have less then 1yr of driven your jacked,noteven small companys will take you in. you have to know or have your own truck an even then it will be hard crst put it on your dot record
    I was a driver mentor for Swift Transportation. I had a pleasant experience at Swift, but I needed more income for my lifestyle.





    One thing, whether you go to Swift, CRST, or any other truck company, they don't pay as well as you think. You make $45,000 a year, but eating out at restaurants all the time, and buying life basics on the road is expensive. Don't expect to make a fortune on the road.





    You can keep abreast of new happenings on the road by visiting cdlofit.ning.com and subscribe to LandLine magazine. Both are free, and they help you stay on top of this INCREDIBLY competitive industry.





    I still think Swift is a good quality company, but not the super high income that would have you stay long term. Most drivers at Swift have less than 2 years experience or were like me, driver mentors.





    Good Luck! Drive Safe!
    i'm not sure what CRST means, but i am also a commercial driver. I drive a metro bus and while it's not always the best job in the world, at least its a good, steady paycheck with great benefits and retirement (which is what a lot of people are looking for in this wavering economy).
    Tell him to go to halliburton jobs they are always looking for workers
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    Hello,





    What a girl looks for in her prospective husband? I am a sort of shy, introvert,soft spoken and a polite guy. Does any girl look for these qualities in her man. What a girl looks for in her prospective husband?
    Geeze man of course there are girls who want that. Not everyone wants the propelled propaganda image of a husband with a cocky attitude loud spoken behavior and who drinks all the time. The truth is every girl is looking for something different. I used to be soft spoken as far as dating went but eventually i kind up grew out of it i guess but i can tell you without a doubt that guys like you are generally more likely to find someone who wants a serious relationship because the loud party animal guy is more of a weekend fling not a serious thing.What a girl looks for in her prospective husband?
    Most women look for





    1. Money


    2. Alpha Male qualities (abusive, aggressive, aloof)


    3. Looks





    In that order.





    Women, in general, do not care about





    1. Humor


    2. Personality


    3. Communication





    If you find a woman who doesnt care about the first three, you either got a con artist who will cheat on you with the first guy who exhibits any of those (like my ex wife), or you have found one of the about 5% of women who are worth holding on to, and you should hold on with all your might.
    honesty, respect your feelings,understand you ,learn you thoroughly to the core. never hurt you in the presence of others.taking care to even minutest items.give up readily about his habits which you dislike.love you overwhelmingly.


    all the best for finding such a nice person. when you get one like this, reciprocate the same way he does to you.
    I'm personally not so keen on the shy and introvert part, but definitely on the soft and polite part!





    Just be sure to complement the girl in your life a lot, and be stable and reliable, and then you would be the dream hubby!
    I think nowadays it's a guy with a job that they are looking for,but the shy introvert should be appealing too.
    You may have some characteristics that women want however, nice guys finish last. Some woman may settle for you but, she will always wish for some other guy with money to take care of her.
    according to my favorite Y!A person, she states that fat wallet and a big and well hung thing is very important.

    My husband has red hair and I have brown. What are the chances that our baby will have red hair?

    He is the only red head in his immediate family. He got his red hair from his great grandfather I think.My husband has red hair and I have brown. What are the chances that our baby will have red hair?
    Normally hair color is controlled by many genes than can give to a wide range of colors from light blond to dark brown depending on what your parents have. However, red hair is special:) Getting red hair is actually a recessive trait that has to come from BOTH parents. Each one has to supply the gene for it to occur. Think of red hair as being the trump card of hair colors. Doesn't matter what else you have, when the 2 come together, red it is! Now, your husband has red hair. Guess what, he has no choice but to pass on the gene:) What it's actually going to come down to is you. Is there ANY red hair in your family at all? Anyone you can think of? The red hair gene is rare, and as your husband knows, it might take a long time for 2 red hair genes to find each other again!





    However, if you are not a carrier of the gene, there is a 0 chance your child will have red hair. If you are a carrier, it's a 50/50 shot. If you don't have the gene, your children's hair will be any where in the range of your hair to his family's hair colors.





    **Edit** I'm afraid the people above me a bit misguided when it comes to genetics. they have the recessive part right, but the rest is wrong.My husband has red hair and I have brown. What are the chances that our baby will have red hair?
    I'm in the same situation as you. Except I'm the one with the red hair and he's the one with brown. But I have heard that men carry the gene more than women. It really depends on your whole family background and his as well. I would say you have a 50/50 chance. But if he is the carrier for red hair, then your baby will def. be red headed. Either way your baby will be beautiful, red hair is becoming extinct and everywhere I go someone compliments me on it. You really wont know until if comes out.. :) GOOD LUCK!
    I have red hair my partner has brown. My son has strawberry blonde hair. It's redder in the sunlight. I got my red hair from my grandfather as well.


    I was worried about this, I really didn't want my son to have RED-RED hair because I know how it was for me as a child.


    I doubt your child will have red hair, maybe some hints of red like my son, and I must say it is a beautiful color.
    Red hair is a recessive gene and the color of your child's hair depend on which genes take overrule. More than likely, if you have no red head in your genes and he has a gene other than red then your child probably won't be a red head.
    Genetics are very complicated, and red-hair is definitely recessive. I'd say the chances are low, but you never know.
    Not big chances at all...brown is more prominent than red. But hey! Don't loose hope, the baby might come out as red as daddy...
    I don't think it's that big of a chance that it will have red hair. But why would that matter?
    Since red hair is a recessive gene, the chances most likely are 20/80. 20% he will have red hair. I believe :) you'll have to let us know how it turns out :)

    My husband has acute bronchitis and emphysema. What is the right medicines he can take to get rid of these?

    His doctor has given him Albuterol Inhilation for 4 years and now with Spiriva handihaler. The first 15 days he took this 2nd prescription (sample) every morning, he slept nicely at bed time. When we started buying it from the pharmacy there is no effect to him. He has to inhale more often this Albuterol instead of using this for emergency.My husband has acute bronchitis and emphysema. What is the right medicines he can take to get rid of these?
    Make sure you talk to your doctor and explain what is going on.. Only a doctor can make the call on what is needed... but you might want to ask if your husband would benefit from using prednisone and Flovent... Flovent is also a inhaler that you use with the Albuteral and prednisone really helped my husband and I when we had breathing problems... you really need to get the doctor to get him on the right meds and dosage... If you don't think you are getting the correct treatment.. see a different doctor.. it never hurts for a second opinion... :)My husband has acute bronchitis and emphysema. What is the right medicines he can take to get rid of these?
    There is no cure for bronchitis or emphysema.But ask your doctor about something for allergiess.I stopped smoking after 33 years ,praise God i can now breath.But the allergie medicine really helped me.Keep dust away from him,smoke,all irritants.Good luck
    Depending on what caused the onset, they may be with him for the rest of his life. Especially if it is from smoking.


    I know from experience that bronchitis can appear in people with general alergies than don't treat those alergies.


    I now use flonase and not only are my sinuses clear, but I don't get bronchitis.


    His lungs may have an embolism...


    I read once of a child getting emphysema, acutely as your husband has, but this child actually had a small seed embedded in his lungs that were at first undetected by x-rays. When his mother insisted, the doctors operated and found the seed. The boy recovered and no longer has emphysema.
    everyone here is correct in saying it is incurable. no one has said anything about the diet, though. sugar and dairy products should be cut out completely or kept to a minimum.


    albuterol has steroids in it - they only work for 2 weeks on me, too. with some people it's normal. and because it IS a steroid, it can become addictive. (that's not good - addictive AND only works for a couple of weeks)


    have you had your air tested for molds or pollens he might be allergic to? get your air ducts in your house tested and cleaned and have his office tested, too. if there are molds, he might not be the only one affected at work. (and work might be liable for doc bills that i'm sure are sky high by now - 5 years of this)
    You can not ';get rid of'; either of these. I would suggest that you notify your Doctor that the Spiriva handihaler is not working. If you have not seen one yet, I would suggest that you ask for a referral to a pulmonologist (specialist who deals with the lungs and disease of the lungs). He/she may be able to give your husband a better treatment plan. I wish you both the best.
    get in the Dolorian. set it to a time when u didn't smoke. keep doing that the rest of your life. that will take care of it. glad to be of assistance. any time.
    you can't ';get rid'; of these you can only make them more confortable.... follow your doc's advice.....if something isnt working TELL YOUR DOC!!!!!
    drugs are toxic unsafe and will kill you.





    what you need is safe and natural called glyconutrients.
    The albuterol inhaler should help with the inflammation in his lungs. There is no medicine he can take to get rid of emphysema. Once you have it, you have it. However, stopping smoking now will greatly reduce or cease the progression of it so that it doesn't get worse. Also with continued smoking, acute bronchitis will progress to chronic bronchitis, a condition that will not go away with medication.





    Check with the doctor if the additional medication continues to have little effect. There should be no reason that the Rx would work differently when purchased at the pharmacy.

    How to stay happy and calm when my husband leaves me for another lady?

    My husband tells me that there is no more love between us. He is now having another lady in his hug and will not return home. He does not even say a wrod of sorry . People say that i should let go .It is a waste of time to bother a guy that doesn't love me. I feel being rejected and dumped. it is difficult to accept the hard fact. I am very angry, unhappy , in bewilderment and loss. How , in what ways I can make myself happier and calm down?How to stay happy and calm when my husband leaves me for another lady?
    I'm really sorry to hear what happened to you. My husband has not left me like that, but a boyfriend has....you must come to the realization that it wasn't your fault nor was it anything you did.


    He's not happy with himself and he is thinks something else can make him happy. Trust me, he will figure out what he had was the best thing going for him and he will regret it...promise! As for yourself...go out with your friends/family....get your mind off things. Don't let your life stop because of him....he's not worth wasting precious days of your life. Look at this as a new start..you'll be happier than ever. Stay busy! Hope it all gets better for you soon!!!!How to stay happy and calm when my husband leaves me for another lady?
    Girl it's been almost 3 years for me and I'm STILL hurt and bitter ! I left him though...but he gave me all the reasons in the world to go. It's not something you can suck up and get over. Break down. Cry, Beat up your pillow. Talk to a psychiatrist.......It's natural and normal. Don't try to hold it in. I thought I was being strong by holding it in but 2 years later I was in mental health talking to a psychiatrist who told me I hadn't mourned my divorce yet.......let it all out!
    I'm sure it is difficult to let go but it is for the best. You can focus on yourself and not be bothered be him. Get yourself involved in all the activities you ever wanted to try. Volunteer if you can. Have a glass of wine at night and get your mind involved in a good book.
    the absolute best way to make urself happy and calm is to sit back and have a good, hearty laugh at him. and her. if he left u, he'll leave her too. it's his loss (with you) and it's gonna be her agony. she's got leftovers, therefore, she's not much of a woman at all. and most important, don't look back.
    realize that he is obviously a terrible person to be like this, and you just werent aware. Be glad youre aware now rather than later on... there is more time in your life to enjoy without him and to find a guy who will be your best ever.





    being rejected by a jerk should never hurt. you just say, oh wow, I had no idea you were such a huge as*****, glad youre gone, geez!
    You have every right to be upset and mad at him. But in the long run you can be happy because you deserve so much better. There is so much more to life and now you have a second chance to go out an find it! Good luck, don't be sad! Remember to smile and tomorrow will be a better day!
    Make him regret leaving. come over to my house My wife and I can talk eat out and then relax, take some pic of you having fun and send them to him. no sex unless you want but show him pics of you having fun without him will get him thinking he messed up.
    Yeah, what goes around comes around! You need to forget the cheating liar and get yourself another guy! MAKE HIM JEALOUS! thats the goal here.
    Get another guy, let go, if it isnt meant to be, it isn;t mean to be!

    How can I cook less meat without my husband complaining?

    Okay, my husband and son are very skinny and they eat massive amounts of protein. I guess they need protein because they are active or something, but I want to eat less meat as a family. My husband hates beans.


    How can I make protein substitutions for meat that they will accept? Has anyone had this problem, and how did you solve it? I want to eat less meat for health and environmental reasons.How can I cook less meat without my husband complaining?
    when you're making combined dishes and casseroles, it's easy to just sort of back off on the amount of meat quite a bit, using it more for a flavoring than for the bulk of the dish. spaghetti, for instance. if you usually use a pound of ground beef, try using just a half or a third of a pound, and maybe chop up some extra veggies to cook in the sauce. probably nobody will notice the difference there.





    for hamburgers, i broke my husband in by using half and half for a long time until he got used to it - half fake burger, half real, mixed together and cooked up.





    chicken tenders and chicken nuggets by Quorn are so close to the real thing that they may not even notice the difference at all.





    if he's really dying for meat, he can make himself a burger or indulge when you go out to eat, maybe. in the end, you can't force him to stop eating meat if he's unwilling, but you can do a lot to help him if he's open to trying to cut down.How can I cook less meat without my husband complaining?
    plain + simple , cook smaller portions of meat + see what he has to say about it , if he says nothing whittle it down . i suggest casseroles , easy to hide less or no meat in
    Chopping it into smaller bits reduces the amount of meat you use. Stir fries, chilis, pastas, that sort of thing, are easiest to disguise less meat in.





    If they're eating more than a couple of card-deck sized portions of meat a day, you might want to consider replacing regular meat with organic meat instead. I'd be worried about the amount of hormone and antibiotic they'd be eating.
    oh someone gave me a hint try those boca burgers I like them. cut them up in place of beef in some dishes too that will be yummy.
    I agree with the faux meat thing. Lightlife makes Smart Strips you can use in stir fries or fajitas. Many companies make veggie burgers. There are veggie deli slices, veggie sausage, veggie dogs. Try making dishes subbing the veggie stuff. Experiment. See what you, your husband, and your son like.





    And I'm not a big fan of beans either, but when mixed with other foods, I'll eat them. I personally need something crunchy with my beans, like a taco shell. Make chili with tempeh instead of ground meat and serve it over fries or chips. I love veggie chili with french fries! Or make a chili mac.





    If there's a vegetarian or veg-friendly restaurant in your area, check it out and try their dishes for ideas.





    And I agree, get your husband and son involved. Let them know why you want to reduce your meat consumption. And let them know you're concerned about their health, too.
    I think you have work with your husband on this. It really depends on his tastes and his willingness to try new things. If he doesn't like ';beans'; in their entirety, it sounds like he's not an adventurous eater. But its also possible he simply hasn't been exposed to some of the tastier ways of eating beans. Maybe you're going to have try some new things in terms of preparation.





    One way to cut back on protein is to continue to make ';meat'; dishes, but where the meat is not a standalone item (like a steak or roast chicken). Things like a stew or stir fry deliver both protein and a vegetable component. Plus, they tend encourage the consumption of starch (like noodles or rice).





    Get some cookbooks for ideas both about ingredients and recipes. If you aren't that comfortable cooking from recipes, get titles from Cooks Illustrated, or the Joy of Cooking which do an excellent job providing detailed instructions.





    You also need to (pardon the expression) flesh out what you to eat more of. Are fish and/or chicken ok? What non-meat items does he like. Pasta? Pizza? Tofu? Vegetables?





    Finally, if you're taking protein out of the diet, you should be aware of what you are replacing it with. If it's a big plate of carbohydrates without adding nutrition, is that really achieving the health benefits you set out for?
    I started doing this at my home. Some easy things to do are start substituting sliced/diced tofu in place of meat in pastas, baked dishes, rice dishes, stir-fry. Then I found a product that is ground and browned tofu that looks just like ground beef. Sub that in some dishes. My fiance has started to enjoy tofu without knowing what it was. Now he knows and loves it.





    Check out this site for some meatless options





    http://www.veggiechef.com/glossary.htm
    I've had veggie schnitzels that I swear tasted like meat. Try them on fake-meat products, usually these have added benefits like additional iron etc. and then after an exceptionally good meal when they compliment you on the 'sausages' or 'schnitzel' reveal to them its not meat and they might be more willing to try meat alternatives.





    Also does he really hate beans? I had a house mate who said he hated beans because he didn't eat baked beans but I made a chilli recipe from kidney beans, bean mix and some other things (including a vegetarian 'casserole mince' which you can get in Australia) and he didn't even know it was beans and kept saying he thought it was meat.
    Maybe you can get your husband to grill steaks or other meat for himself %26amp; your son. My husband enjoys grilling, and I often turn over the meat portion of meal preparation to him while I do the side dishes inside.





    While it's really not completely reasonable for you to impose your personal dietary decisions on the rest of the family, you could try and get them more involved in meal planning and preparation. Nachos, pasta bar, and other DIY layered type entrees might work for your family, with each person choosing the items he/she wants.
    start using leaner meats and fish and then introduce other proteins like lentils, soy products and whatever else you think might be good. if you're making a dietary change as a family, you should all be on board. otherwise, you should cook for yourselves if you can't agree on what's good.
    You can always use some products such as Yves veggie and mix some meat in with it. Such as mix hamburger with the Groundround fake hamburger. Cut the meat up smaller and mix it in with whatever dish you are making. Just make sure they are filling themselves up with something like a whole grain, rice, quinoa, millet, pasta, yams, potatoes, etc. instead of meat.





    Meat does not give one energy. Also, eating a lot of meat will cause one to be thinner, such as Atkins has proven. But it's not a healthy thin.





    Maybe he doesn't like beans because he's never had any beans that are any good.... hence, there are a lot of different beans in the world. Who doesn't like garbanzo beans? Or kidney beans? He doesn't? Weird! Try lentils. Red lentils are tasty and quick to cook compared to the green/brown/etc. ones. You can literally throw a handful of red in with the rice.





    Remember, in most places around the world, meat is considered a garnish... not something you just load onto your plate.
    Try to do some research about nutrition etc. then you can get some good ideas on how to feed your family properly. it really doesn't matter whether you are vegetarian/vegan or otherwise. A good nutritional diet is ideally a must for all families regardless of persuasion.








    This may sound creepy but have you thought of sex as a bribe? The less meat he eats, the more he gets some... don't mean to be rude but it worked for me when wife wanted me to cut down on booze..
    well, as the family cook, you can determine how YOU eat, but, obviously, you can't force your family to go vegetarian, so you'll have to cook meat for them.. but you can still know that you are trying by not eating it..





    Experiment with soy burgers.. Then you can make hamburgers for the family, a soy one for you.. and eat all the same extras.. very little extra work to make a vegetarian meal and a non veg meal together..





    also spaghetti.. buy a sauce without meat.. and save some for yourself.. add meat to the rest, or make meatballs on the side..





    if you get creative, you can serve your family meat and have a completely vegetarian meal for yourself, with very little work!
    Use vegetarian alternatives like Quorn without telling them. They may not even notice the difference. Quorn do mince as well as chicken-type products.

    My husband and I are looking for someone to carry a child for us, so where do we start?

    I had a complete hystorectomy because of cancer, a couple of years ago. We both have children, but none brought into our marriage. We really desire the need to have another child, but due to the circumstances, we are unable. Please help us figure this out. If anyone has any suggestions, on where we can start, please let us know. We both are loving, caring and hard working individuals. We both feel that are hearts have been torn into little pieces every day because of not being able to bring a child into our marriage. We do have our own children from our first marriages, but we really want to have a child brought into this lifetime marriage. I sometimes feel that maybe we should just be grateful for the children we have, but I know that we are meant to have another one. We have saved up money to help pay for the procedures, and hospital stays, so now we feel that we should really start looking for a mother to carry our child. Are we going in the right direction?My husband and I are looking for someone to carry a child for us, so where do we start?
    I also had a hystorectomy early in life. I have adopted 2 children through the state. One at 22 months and another at 4 months. I have remarried now and we are debating the children issue. Do an internet search for surragate mothers. surrogatemothers.com and surrogatealternatives.com are two that I just found. I may investigate these sights myself. Just be careful and make sure everything is legal, legal, legal! Good luck!My husband and I are looking for someone to carry a child for us, so where do we start?
    Look it up on the net. Its the best place or ask your doctor where you can find someone. They might have the best answer.
    I am in the same situation .my sister is going to be my surrogate she has had three beautiful healthy children .I hope you find someone .good luck !
    Have you considered adopting children out of the foster care system? Many children wait for loving parents. Why create new life in an unnatural way just to have a child?
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  • Can anyone suggest what to pack for my husband's lunch?

    He is a truck driver that doesn't have enough time to stop and eat,so everything I pack has to be something he can eat on the go.I can cook food for him,but he doesn't have any way to heat it up,so the food would have to be good cold also.I want to fix him something other than just deli sandwiches..he really likes to eatCan anyone suggest what to pack for my husband's lunch?
    lol my father is a truck driver as well and too likes to eat and eats as he drives...I found these sites that help my mom pack his lunch





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    Hope these help! : )Can anyone suggest what to pack for my husband's lunch?
    Since the others that have answered your question with good ideas, I would like to suggest something. Has your husband every thought about getting a power inverter for his truck? Then he can have a small microwave right in his truck. My husband works out of his company car everyday. He has an inverter so he can plug in his computer and printer without needing a battery charger. That way you can send him more ';home cooked'; meals that he can enjoy hot; especially with winter here!





    Good Luck!
    had the same problem-if you have a good thermos MOST anything will stay hot for him to eat-soups-pastas(keep the parm and s%26amp;p on the side) -even dry ceareal-honey-nut cheer is a good one for filling up and as for energyx-tra vit-B and instant 'green tea'; packets for on the go -just add h2o and they are cheap as well as an excelent antio-oxident-(as for a hubbt 'surprise'; little note from you to him';tucked away in his lunch -so when he finds it -aw -he'll be thinking of youand last but not least -if you really wanna 'heat up' his luch';accidently';drop in a piece of (his or yours) fav orite undergarment-if ya know what i -mean-i did that to my hubby -only when he took his fork out to eat (infront of a few buddies)my thong went flying off the fork-alittle embarrasing-but in the end a good laugh-for like 2 weeks-but thats all up to you
    Fried chicken is good cold, and so is spaghetti!
    I do a lot of hiking and have the same problem not being able to heat things up.





    Salads, sandwiches, fruits, cheese, etc. Sometimes I take spaghetti, lasagna or pizza which are fine at room temperature. Basically anything you would take on a picnic is fine.
    one thing some of these people dont seem to relizes is that if hes a truck driver, how is he suppost to keep meat? i mean its a looong ride right?


    i would like to say that tuna companies have come out with cute stuff. they make great little packs with diffent fish meats and salads for on the go. fruit cups are great and easy. remember that a fun drink (which can be in a small cooler) can make lunch any where fun. if hes on the raod, something really good is looked forward to.


    And i know its kiddish, but putting a joke it with his lunch might put a smile on your guys face, and make him feel cared for.
    I'm sure these would be okay cold....





    Mushroom Filo Bites





    Ingredients





    4 large closed cup mushrooms


    4 tablespoons vegetable oil


    2 tablespoons sauce flour


    unsweetened soya milk


    salt and pepper to taste


    filo pastry





    Preheat the oven to 200 degrees. Make the filling using the mushroom sauce recipe. Take 2 sheets of filo pasty and cut them into a square shape. Damp the edges of one and stick the other on top. Then damp the edges of the top piece. put a spoonful of the mushroom sauce mixture on one side of the pastry leaving a gap around the edge. Fold te other side over to make a triangle shape and press along the edges. Once you have used all of the mixture, place them on a greased baking tray andbake for 5 minutes or until golden brown. Serve immediately.
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    Your going to get alot of ideas on food, but may I suggest a little something at the bottom ot the cooler that will brighten his day when he finally gets through the food. be creative and use your imagination
    Vienna's or potted meat and crackers, pizza, canned ravioli, poptarts, chips, pudding, salads, sandwiches, fruits, some of those things that kids like called ';lunchables';, and yogurt.
    Besides the usual, stick a note in there telling him how much you love him. That'll warm his heart if not his lunch! BTW - any number of truckers carry a bag of charcoal with them, and can park in a rest stop equipped with charcoal braziers and heat up soups, stews and the like. Your trucker may be new enough that he isn't aware of this yet - and not all truck stops are so equipped.
    Any sort of sandwiches would do. Chicken, peanut butter, cheese, etc.





    Besides sandwiches, you can also pack him pita breads filled with veggies, cheese and sauce. However, this IS a messy meal and it will get soggy so I suggest you wrap it in a foil and maybe give him a container of sauce on the side.





    You can also pack him any kinds of fruits and fruit juices.





    If you like to bake, you can bake a batch of muffins or cupcakes in the fridge, and pack that as well.





    My hubby used to take his lunch to work too and those are the types of things I packed him. He's in the computer business so now he works from home.
    Try some Pillsbury pizza dough,


    cook it the day before like this.


    roll out the dough


    spread it with favorite mustard


    cover it with ham,pepperoni hot cappy or favorite lunch meats


    layer with cheese and roll it up like a wrap.


    bake it in the oven per box instructions.


    Delicious cold or hot and it travels well!
    3 balogna sandwiches and a bottle of Rum.
    Well I think fried chicken is good cold. You can pack it in a cooler along with some other goodies.
    portable pizza or burrito
    You might want to try trail mix. Just mix a bunch of dried foods that he likes together. Nuts, raisins, cheezits, peanut M%26amp;Ms, pretzels, chex cereal, etc. He can easily graze on it while he's driving.





    Also, plain nuts are great at combating hunger if he's just looking to kill his appetite. Nature's Valley granola bars, nut and fruit, are good snacks too. Bananas, grapes, apples, can be easily eaten while driving. Maybe slices of cheese and pepperoni with crackers.
    cook some chicken tenders in the oven, let them cool and make a tasty chicken salad with spicy ranch dressing, or make what's called a big sandwich...





    Get a ready to cook loaf of bread, cut it in three layers, on the first layer put some spicy mustard, turkey and pepperjack cheese, 2nd layer mayonaise, ham and chedder, third layer bacon, tomato, and your choice of cheese and sauce, replace last slice of bread, bake in oven until all cheese is melted and bread is golden.. it'll feed 6 people and is great hot or cold and tastes a little different than your usual sandwich.
    Salads
    I like cabbage rolls hot or cold. Brown some ground beef add fresh cabbage and mustard and salt and pepper and thaw some frozen bread dough and wrap up your meat mixture like a calzone in the bread dough and bake at 350 until the tops are golden brown! Yum o

    My husband wants to build a fire pit?

    the pit itself will be metal but surrounding the metal will be all wood. i think this is a bad idea, wont it catch on fire? he seems to think it wont. what do you think?My husband wants to build a fire pit?
    men and fire has not been a good idea since the beginning of time- no offenseMy husband wants to build a fire pit?
    I have found that the best way to burn wood in a metal container is to have a 30 gal metal drum with heavy Gage steel puncture holes in the bottom and sides of the container and burn your wood in that. When the metal gets red hot it gives off lots of heat and will burn even wet wood.

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    The probability is that it will, rather than it won't. Uh, Hubby? Metal transfers (means to pass on ) heat. Get it hot enough and the surrounding wood will ignite. Ring the ring with pavestone type blocks and the your deck will be safer.
    I have to disagree with rattagous - it is not fireproof in any way shape or form.


    Your husband may be a great handyman, but in this case he is misguided in has thinking.





    I would also suggest a call to one or more of your local wood stove / fireplace shops and get their opinion as well. Many of these companies also work with outdoor fireplace / fire pit / bar-be-que type installations.


    I am guessing they would be a more believable/convincing source of information than us folk here.
    let your husband be the handyman, it sounds fireproof!!!!
    hello! big fire hasard! if you want to build a pit, you should take the wood and surround it with stones or concreate. the wood will defentaly catch on fire and burn. use your woman power and stop him now!
    Let him build it, have the fire department ';on call'; and then when it burns, tell him ';I told you so!';
    keep in mind that metal expands when heated, if you leave at least one half inch of air space between the meatel and wood, you should be ok.
    I think it really runs the risk of it catching fire. Try rocks or stone. They look good and they help with the heat.
    Metal transmits heat..NOT a good idea..

    What is a creative way to tell my husband that we are having a baby?

    My husband and I have been trying to have children for awhile now. He is in the Army and he is gone on a training trip thing and will be back October 3rd, he left September 13th. But I am trying to come up with a good, cute, creative way to tell him because he really wants to have a baby and I found out the day after he left and I just have not told him yet because I want to surprise him.





    Any suggestions?





    Thank you!What is a creative way to tell my husband that we are having a baby?
    I say get some cute baby camo clothing and meet him when he gets home and say you bought him something really cute, but you aren't sure it'll be his size, then give him the clothes and see what his reaction is :DWhat is a creative way to tell my husband that we are having a baby?
    Tell him that you got him a little ';welcome home present.'; Instead of buying a onesie for the baby, or a shirt, buy one of those cool camo ';daddy bag'; diaper bags (babiesrus has tons), wrap it, and give it to him. When he opens it, just tell him that he might be needing it soon...





    GOOD LUCK!





    Also, to be even more creative, you could put a shirt in it that says like ';Army dad'; or a camo onesie in it.
    Buy a new camera (disposable works) or video camera and wrap it up as a coming home present. Include a card inside the gift that says something like, ';for baby Jones (whatever your last name is) coming 5-17-09 (whatever your due date)';. Or write something like that. Try to video tape it if you can. Good luck to you.
    If you have gotten and ultrasound already..... Put it in a frame that says something about Daddy and then wrap it up, and tell him you have something for him. When he opens it, then you can tell him congratulations your going to be a daddy, and then he will see the first picture of his baby.
    lay a basket on your porch like theres a baby in it and go outs ide ring the door bell and hide and when he opens it he will see the basket and inside of it have a doll covered up and a shirt of paper that says were having a baby our wait 9 months
    If you are waiting for him to get back, then get a shirt that says ';bun in the oven'; or something similar and wear it when he walks through the door and see how longs it takes him to react.
    Send him three roses and make sure one is a bud. Then tell him there is one for every member og the family.
    write it on the car or on the bathroom mirror.
    get a baby army t shirt and wrap it up with the test

    What to do if you know that a husband cheated on a wife just 4 hours after she gave birth to their baby?

    And he was all the time with her, and very supportive, then he pretended that he had some things to do on his office, and went there for a short time, and afterwards - to another woman, and then went back to the hospital?


    And you know all that, and what to do then?


    And that baby now is 4 days old?What to do if you know that a husband cheated on a wife just 4 hours after she gave birth to their baby?
    Mind your own business. Let them work it out themselves.What to do if you know that a husband cheated on a wife just 4 hours after she gave birth to their baby?
    Its hormones.





    Midwives and nurses get hit on all the time.





    I would stay quiet.
    if that was me, i would really want to know about it....however i dont know if i could handle it straight after having a baby. In a way its none of ur business, but id to know. If u cant sleep at night, send him a secret note saying u know what hes up to, and if he doesnt come clean within a week youll let her know.
    The best thing is to tell the husband that you know what he has done and he has a choice either he tells he or you will


    before you tell her you must asses her start of mind as this could encourage the baby blues you will really need to be their for her


    Before doing so asses the situation but if i was her i would want to know


    same thing happened to my cuz i told her it was very hard and i hand to be their 24 / 7


    but it worked out for the best


    ONCE A CHEAT AWAYS A CHEAT
    the man needs a new doorstep to park he's stinkin' asset on....
    if i was the pregnant wife with all those hormones i think i would kill him and maybe even get off as mentally unsound lol





    i would be pissed i think i would tell the other woman first i mean its not garenteed not to happen again this way but it would probably dive the mother into a deep depression if you told her but if i was the other women and heard he just watched him wife give birth and then came to me to get his jollies it would make me sick i wouldn't ever want to see him again but i of course would never be the other women i see no excuse for this
    Well, you see, for me and I am just being honest here and myself, other people might have different ways, to go about this, but if I knew a husband was cheating, I would confront him first and not his wife who just gave birth, her hormones are really going crazy, and she is really sensative and taking care of her baby, so the best way is to confront the father, and then let him tell her when he thinks it is time.





    Or I would tell anyone that knows this man and tell him what I am observing and I really do not think that is fair, for crying out loud she just gave birth to his child and for the sake of both mother and child and her sanity, I would tell anyone I know of his misbehavings.





    Please be really careful of her feelings, because if she hears this right now, you do not want her to end up with Post Partum Depression and get overwhelmed with all of this!





    But definately, I would confront the father, by doing this, you are saving a new mom's sanity, and putting that cheating husband in his place!





    Also if he is having an affair, I hope to God that he did not transmit any sexually transmitted diseases to her and her new born baby!
    Keep your mouth Shut.


    What goes around comes


    around and he will get his!!


    What a DIRTBAG


    Send him an anonymous letter


    telling him what scum he is.
    nail him died.


    who goes cheat while a wife is in labor ?


    he could go 2 hell.
    OMG!! That is devastating! Well i would wait for a while till mom gets past postpartum depression then tell her, or maybe not say anything unless you are close to her.
    I know the popular answer is going to be, ';Stay out of it.'; However, if I were the wife I would definately want to know right away. This man is endangering her with potential STDs and making her look like a fool. I think she has the right to be told.
    In nursing we were told that STRESS can cause an increase in sexual urges. I certainly found male patients who were raring to go, and I'm anything but sexy, and everyone has heard how nurses get extremely uh excited on their nights off, a reputation that is admittedly earned. Stress may have alot to do with the husbands need to go to another women and bonk his brains out, stress relief. They should talk about it after some time has past and the trauma of the birth fades.
    You tell the husband that you know, and if he doesn't tell her by a certain date, you will! All these people saying to keep your mouth shut are terrible! How would they feel if their partner was cheating and other people knew but they didn't. What you need to keep in mind though, is that your friend may not believe you. You need to be prepared for that, and not be angry with them. Just be there when she comes around and needs your support. At least you'll know you did the right thing.
    There is no point in just telling her, as she isnt likely to beleive it. She needs to see the evidence for herself, and then give her as much support as possible, as she will need it to gain enough courage to realise she can carry on her life without him.
    Nothing - it's (a) none of your business and (b) if your are friends with either of them (husband or wife) it will kill the friendship if you do tell.
    oh f$%* thats messed up...tell the the mother who just gave birth straight away!!! u cant let sumthin like that without telling her
    she absolutely, positively should be told! But NOT NOW!!!! She will be extremely fragile and need her husband now more than ever! I would wait until the baby is a few months old, then find a way.


    How utterly devastating for her. That makes me very sad.
    I would suggest talking with the husband. Letting him know you know, and tell him you will support them through it all but he must tell.


    Adultery is not always the end of a marriage. But it is the beginning of the end if not addressed.


    His acting out could be an indicator of something going on with him emotionally...first baby, scared of parenting, financial stress...etc... and these are things that should be talked about WITHIN a marriage, not dealt with by acting out because that won't solve anything.


    Perhaps thay had problems before the baby, or there may be underlying things you are not aware of.


    Not to justify his behavior, but just saying that, there is a whole history of this couple at home you may know nothing about.


    I do think he should be put on the spot and encouraged to deal with it. Maybe they could start counseling or something.(If he choses not to tell, then he at least knows his secret is not secret anymore)


    Be supportive of them BOTH. They will both need it.
    Sometimes that old trouser snake just takes over.
    I'd leave his sorry a~ss. Why wait? You KNOW that if the relationship starts out that way, that he is a no-good, downright jerk. So you options are (A.) leave him now and get it over with or (B.) wait another several years, be more miserable while he treats you like dirt and THEN leave. I'd go for option ';A';.
    You seem to be very well informed; that has me a little worried. Either way I were you I would keep my mouth shut. You don't, you'll be asking for trouble.
    Uhhh....I don't care how 'stressed out' the husband is.....tell that woman so that she can protect herself from STDs and have her baby checked. He's not going to stop just because he's a daddy now. Come on, ....I would want to know right away, no matter how painful and I'm a mother of 2 and know all about postpartum and hormones. TELL HER!!
    And you know all this how.... are you the other women...
    First of all, how do you know this? Is it a rumor? Never believe anything unless you saw it with your own eyes. Secondly, there's nothing you should say or do. Sooner or later the girl will find out for herself what an as- she has for a husband.

    How do I find out if my ex husband's tax refund has been intercepted?

    Is there a number I can call or a website I can go to? Do i go thru the IRS or through child support services?? He filed about 4 weeks ago and he ALWAYS gets rapid refund...wouldnt it have come back by now, or no?How do I find out if my ex husband's tax refund has been intercepted?
    Contact your child support services office. I have custody of a grandchild and every time I have called them, they've been able to look on their computer to see how much he's paid, when he paid it, etc. His tax refund was sent to me for back child support.How do I find out if my ex husband's tax refund has been intercepted?
    If you look at http://irs.gov you will see a button that says, ';Where is my refund?'; Click on that and follow the instructions -- you will need his social security number, date of birth and the exact amount of the refund.

    My husband is in the Army and will be graduating from boot camp in may any suggestions on gifts?

    I want to get my Husband someting special for his graduation from boot camp but Im picking my brain and cant think of anything to get him. Any suggestions?My husband is in the Army and will be graduating from boot camp in may any suggestions on gifts?
    Time alone together!


    Make it quiet, romantic if possible. Hotel if you have the money, home if money is tight.


    Dinner out... will make anticipation better.





    The answers by guys here are fine, since your husband is a guy! But you are trying to create memories for him too! Later he will appreciate the memories of romantic nite, dinner, and you looking pretty almost as much as he will the s*x.





    Also, consult your FRG to learn what things to send him once (or if) he goes overseas.


    Most in-demand things are:





    1. Large boxes of Kleenex Brand name UNSCENTED baby wipes - soldiers in ';the sandbox'; really appreciate being able ';sponge down';...some locations do not have showers or even water for bathing - *ok that is war*, but people living in that condition for weeks or months REALLY want to wash the sand off! Source: wives of AD soldiers serving in Iraq





    2. Tampons - name brand, or whatever. Used by medics and any soldier to shove into wounds and save their buddy's life until they can reach hospital. Works.


    In fact, ';tampon'; was originally invention by surgeons to stop bleeding in deep wounds.





    3. Food - canned or anything that keeps in the heat. Cookies.





    Hope this helps.My husband is in the Army and will be graduating from boot camp in may any suggestions on gifts?
    You, wrapped in a bow





    ..and nothing else!
    get yourself a bottle of lube, because all he is going to want is to tear into you.
    After being in boot camp for a while just take him to a motel and tell him you are his present and to unwrap you.
    If he is deploying soon (which you may or may not know, depending on if you know his first duty station or not), an iPod would be great. My husband couldn't live without his when he's deployed.





    Other than that, all he's really gonna want is you!
    Ever had a pet dog that didnt see you for a long time?





    That x 20 will be your husband after bootcamp. So you just being there will be a gift itself.





    I know you want to give him something special, maybe you can get him a little locket with your picture in it? I dont know honestly.





    I am guessing that you will at the very least screw his brains out when you two are alone, he will want that trust me.
    Probably a nice Arab turban cause thats where he is heading.





    The new guys get to replace the old ones... Unless he is very intelligent then he becomes to valuable to loss get stuck on some base in
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    My husband and I want to buy a new house and rent/sell our first home. Is there any need to know info when purchasing a second home, is this seen as negative in today's market?My husband and I want to buy a new house and rent/sell our first home?
    If you have enough money to put a down payment on a second home and to pay two mortgage payments, there's nothing negative about it.





    Don't count on selling that first home any time soon, though. So you'd better make very sure there's a good market for renting where you are.My husband and I want to buy a new house and rent/sell our first home?
    Since your primary residence will become rental, you should check your mortgage agreement with a lender. Probably there is stated that if your primary residence becomes rental you will be in breach of contract and they might call the loan due. I do not think that this will happen with all going foreclosures, because they have better things to do right now then to check what primary residence just became investment property. You should visit the web-site of Fizber http://www.fizber.com , where you could find all the necessary information on the issue.

    My husband's healthy become worst and worst because of lack of exercise and sleep. What shall I do?

    My husband's health become worst and worst because of lack of exercise and sleep. His previous boss passed away in late 30s or early 40s leaving behind young kids and a young wife. How can I help to let him pay attention to exercise %26amp; sleep? He keep working in front of computer after work till mid-night everyday. His health has a lot of warning sign but he still unable to get himself to do regular exercise or sleep early. What shall I do? The computer steal away my husband's health!My husband's healthy become worst and worst because of lack of exercise and sleep. What shall I do?
    take out a large insurance policy





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    My husband's healthy become worst and worst because of lack of exercise and sleep. What shall I do?
    Join the gym as a couple and workout together having someone pushing him to exercise may be the only motivation he will have. I have always hated exercise to some degree but since my wife and I joined the same gym it is fun going together. Tell him computer goes off at 9pm or when he is at work it goes in trash. Tell him your not going to stay around while he slowly kills himself he needs to get off his butt and get to the gym start eating healthier meals if he wants to die he can do it without you. Stopping cooking all the good food and start serving salad and tuna fish with low fat dressing no cheese no bread products and limited intake of processed foods and red meat.





    Eating healthy can sometimes make a person take better care of themselves just by the way the foods make you feel.
    Get him to watch a program such as Downsize Me, and programs about health and exercise that will really impact him. Maybe invest in a treadmill, or some sort of exercise machine. Make a reward at the end of the week, like, if he does about half an hours exercise a day, and a good sleep, then at the end of the week you'll do something he likes, or get him something...just anything to get him moving. Hope this helps.
    You need to tell him how you feel and let him be aware of your concerns. I know that you love him and want him to be around for many years to come but if you don't tell him to slow down he never will. Tell him that he needs to put aside his work once he gets home and spend some quality time with you and your kids. If he is willing to do this tell him that after they go to sleep he can get on his computer for a hour and then he has to go to bed. He needs to realize life is more than just work.
    You love him right? So you have to get him to listen maybe go get a check up yes men hate going to the doctor and it's a task to get them to go but get him there then maybe that will open his eyes to his health if a doctor explain this to him it's bad when one parent dies leaving the other with the kids to raise alone so tell him this and make him see it tell him life is important and his family is too and the kids need him...
    You need to FORCE him off of the computer, in whatever way possible. Provide evidence to support the reasons you have that this may be seriously affecting his health, or that it might affect it later on.





    You could also try sitting down with him and talking it about it, it may be that he just needs you to confront him with it.
    tell him i almost died twice this year from the same thing he is doing right now,in our age group , lack of sleep is a killer by it self if constant,lack of excercise breaks down the body terribly , if you smoke and drink and do drugs or all three of the above you are history, you do nothing but speed up the process,i quit smoking three months ago, i got back into sports,i left salty and fatty food alone, now i am 35 lbs. lighter blood pressure is normal(under doctors care) and do not feel like i'm going to die,tell your husband that,if he wants any details,he can call me(joey adams at 313-935-4337.
    Sorry for the insult but maybe you arent very sexy anymore and he is more interested in on line stuff. Try dressing sexy for him and move in erotic and see if he responds. Try it several times. If you get no response then your realtionship may be dead to an on line love of his. We all get old and most of us gain much weight as years pass. Is it a drastic change?
    i would tell him about your concerns. and set a limit on computer time. i know its like treating him like a child, but well lets face it most men are like children. maybe if you have kids do a couple nights a week family walk. watch what he eats. i think a good old fashioned talk might help. i wish you luck.
    1 Make sure the life insurance policy is paid up.


    #2 Plan activities to keep him away from the computer (a walk after dinner, a game of Frisbee in the park on the week end and etc.
    Great sex! it's healthy for both of you and it will give him some Zzzzz's:) Guys usually always knock out after that.





    Good luck!
    You need to light a fire under his *** and tell him how you feel. Buy gym memberships for the both of you and cook some healthy food.
    Tough question but interesting. I have the same problem. My husband is a truck driver so sitting on his duff driving for hours on end and then eating to kill the bordem.





    Luckily he doesn't do interstate etc and comes home every night.





    I feed him good nutritional meals. I pack him good lunches but I know that he tosses them and eats rubbish so I can only do so much. He is not a child to scold.





    Have you tried telling him your fears and worries? I did with my husband but it didn't make much difference I am sorry to say. I think we can only try our best. Ask him for 1/2 hour of his precious time away from the computer to walk with you. It doesn't have to be a sweaty, fast pace, just a walk will do. Ask him to do this with you 3 times a week. ANY exercise is better than none. Make it enjoyable. Set a timetable and stick to it.





    I recently lost 16kg (around 35lb) just by walking and eating right. No need to get breathless etc.





    Tell him that NO JOB is worth his life or health. If he won't listen then unfortunately it may have to wait until his body tells him loud and clear. I truly hope he listens before then. Good luck and I will be interested to read other's ideas so this will help me as well.